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French creator Corinne Maier has two youngsters however cannot look forward to the youngest to go away residence, saying they’ve left her “exhausted and bankrupt”.

Her attack on “idealising parenthood” struck a chord with many moms and dads world wide. Listed below are a few of their feedback – adopted by the responses from others who utterly disagreed.


It is good to know I am not the one one who has felt empty being a mother. Whereas I really like my two youngsters very a lot, I really feel immediately I ought to by no means have had them. Not solely are they costly, however to lift youngsters comes at a price to profession development except girls wait till they’re over 35. There are such a lot of causes to really feel pleasure in being a mother, however I really feel exhausted and unfulfilled. Alex, San Antonio.

I’ve by no means been somebody who’s good with children… and I am nonetheless not. My baby is six now and I nonetheless discover it arduous to narrate to him and his mates. An entire lot of the time, I simply do not like being a mom, and I typically do not match effectively into this function. I really feel like an outcast amongst all the college mums who’re so actively concerned. Nameless, Cologne.

It’s tough to say I remorse having youngsters as a result of I really like them. However, on steadiness, if I might flip again the clock and inform myself what it’s like, I am unsure I might hassle having any. It is solely “fantastic” a really small proportion of the time. With out them I might have cash, freedom and much much less fear. Mary, Edinburgh.

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Having been introduced up in a damaged residence, I had all the time dreamed of a big household. I’ve been blessed with an exquisite husband and three (I am caught for the fitting adjective) youngsters. However by no means earlier than has the expression “watch out what you want for” been so poignant. As I write this my daughter is hanging round my neck. I am unable to even go to the toilet with out listening to screaming and combating and the phrase “mamma” screeching via my “loving” residence. Christmas is coming and as a substitute of feeling pleasure, I really feel like getting on a airplane with my husband and going wherever in any respect with a one-way ticket. Simply to get to know him once more. We’re too exhausted to even snort today. And as I am scripting this I am feeling responsible as a result of I needs to be grateful. I needs to be including some grateful phrase like “it is arduous however price it”. However I am unable to. As a result of I do not know whether it is. Andrea, Italy.

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I am now 50 and broke. Fortunately simply financially as a result of I saved my sanity and life intact regardless of the youngsters. Motherhood positively is not for everybody and simply because we’ve the gear doesn’t suggest to say we’ve the disposition. I gave all the things I might, did all the things I wanted to however was it a “pleasure”? No. If I had my time once more I might by no means have youngsters. Pleasure, Tub.

Mentioning the modern-day baby has left my husband and I exhausted – and it doesn’t cease at childhood, they’re nonetheless a fear on the age of 24 and 26. We tried so arduous to make them impartial however we failed. They stay away from us however we’re nonetheless on the finish of a line, on name 24 hours a day! I really like them each after all but when I turned again the clock I might not have youngsters. Jennifer, Hertfordshire.


I like parenthood, warts and all. Nevertheless, unusual to say it’s not one thing I want for my youngsters. The world is a really completely different place and is altering in a approach that you could have an amazing life with out the sanctity of marriage and household unit. You might be blissful and fulfilled with out an excessive amount of dedication to taking care of others. A pet and plenty of mates, an excellent job will about do it for the subsequent Western era. Jean, Troon.

I’ve two boys and I really like them to no finish till the tiredness catches up and the each day noise would not appear to cease. I was affected person and had a functioning mind. That appears to have disappeared. It is all about schedules, naps, meals, clothes, tidying, playgrounds, the fitting upbringing, the fitting toys, what to say and what to not say, making an attempt to not take issues personally. When it is robust I would love the no-kid-life, however whenever you get a hug or a kiss or they do one thing nice for the primary time I would not give it up for the world. Anja, Maastricht.

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In Norway getting youngsters is much more the one most vital side of 1’s life than in different European international locations. Getting married is anyway kind of seen as a brief state however household and youngsters keep. My husband and I had an exquisite relationship with good, fulfilling intercourse and a variety of widespread pursuits. Now we’re mother and father, we’re burdened on a regular basis, fatter than earlier than and have little or no time for one another. We’re too drenched to please one another in most features any extra. We do love our two boys very a lot and are blissful when they’re. However we’ve in a approach disappeared. Mette, Akerhus.


Having youngsters is one of the best factor that ever occurred to me. It’s also arduous work. I do not know the place anybody would get the concept that being a father or mother is a simple job that leads to on the spot happiness. Being blissful beneath any circumstances is one thing it’s a must to work for over the long run. Brian, Ohio.

I can not think about being childless. As an introvert, they saved me engaged with the world via their lecturers, coaches and different mother and father. I bear in mind telling my mom that we had been ready till we might afford to have a baby. She stated, “in case you wait till you may afford one, you’ll by no means have any.” We now have youngsters and grand-children as a result of they reintroduce to the wonders of nature they usually have a singular perspective that delights us. Karen, Virginia.

With the fitting associate parenthood is pure bliss. We now have 5 and need we had extra. Sure youngsters are work however we’ve had time to do many different issues by buying and selling off duties between us. I discover that parenthood is like all the things else – it may be seen as an issue or a problem in direction of progress. We now have grown a lot and discovered a lot by being with our youngsters. Gloria, Sola.

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Having a baby has made me right into a extra socially and environmentally engaged individual. I wrote my son a e-book, which I despatched to an agent, and some years later I discover myself a youngsters’s author with a number of books beneath my belt. I am fairly positive I would not have finished that if I hadn’t had him. We have even finished a little bit of world travelling – I took him to Australia when he was three. He was one of the best travelling companion, he helped me meet lots of people. He introduced me out of myself. And he teaches me stuff about house and black holes and the pure world (his heroes are David Attenborough and Stephen Hawking!) I am extra inquisitive about science now. I am extra inquisitive about all the things actually. Sam, Worthing.

I raised two youngsters in Japan. Sure, it price quite a bit in phrases of time and cash, however I used to be however in a position to keep a fairly profitable tutorial profession. Kids simply made me extra organised. In intangible methods, my youngsters have given again at the very least as a lot as they got, and proceed to take action of their grownup lives. They each have careers in medication, and contribute large quantities to the well-being of society. Relatively than being “little customers”, they’re as a substitute “nice contributors,” Bob, Tokyo.

I am proud to be a mum – having a baby and taking care of them is a pleasure and my children are actually within the college and extra impartial. I am unable to look forward to them to have their very own so I can take care of them. Placing the hassle in to educating children and exhibiting them proper from incorrect is emotionally rewarding. They may develop up robust and recognize the hassle. Ghada, Enfield.

My youngsters gave me a cause to stay and to combat after I misplaced my husband and was myself going to die of most cancers. I now stay with my grandchildren, certainly one of them fairly handicapped with autism, and that boy is the motor for my new begin in life. Due to him I began a profitable music college, he’s my foremost pupil, and dealing with him each day as I train him to play the violin is essentially the most fulfilling expertise I might ever have. It’s a unhappy day for the way forward for our society when moms stop to consider in and worth motherhood. With out youngsters, there isn’t any future on this world. Jacoline, Geneva